Don't take in the baggage... You are royalty!!!!

You have loved him with all your heart

You have put his happiness before yours

You have given him all of you

You have bared your soul to him..Your weaknesses and vulnerability

You have surrendered your body without restraints...hesitation

You have been to the edge of hell and back ... but you endured

Cos you Loved

And then it happens.. I don't Love you anymore he says 

Your world suddenly turns bleak, it comes crashing down. The sun suddenly stopped shining and the moon swallowed up in darkness.

You cry when you think of sacrifices, the pains, Humiliation, the dreams unfulfilled.

You stick to him like a leech and scream murder if he leaves you. You harrass his new found love with calls and got physical when opportunity arises. You swear you will make his life miserable if he ever leaves you and threaten with death.

Wait a second!!!

I dont think you realise who you are..

You are a Queen, not a maid

You are an awesome creation.. A perfection in the eyes of God

You are beautifully and wonderfully made

You are called forth to show his Excellence.

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Royalties don't whine

Royalties don't belittle themselves

Royalties don't act desperate

Royalties have class 

Royalties begets Royalties

Your King will come

One beffiting

One Loving

Your flaws with be his

And his yours

He will crown your days with loving kindness and your nights with ecstasy.

Its time to let go.. LET GO

Its not the easiest thing to do, but its the best for you

Until you see your worth, other will term you worthless

Until you realise how beautiful and priceless you are, you remain that gold covered in shit and no one will see your real Value...

You deserve the Best..

Good morning

Karrauche wears $3000 boots Chris bought for her. Would you do same?

This picture of K. Tran got me really smiling. Girl is rocking life and living it to the fullest. Break up or nor, she isn't letting it weigh her down or affect her fun side.

While some will advise doing away with whatever might remind you of the hurt of the past, I say letting go cannot be permanant if you don't get your mind to accept reality. You might do away with possessions that remind you of the past but find it hard letting go because your heart has been consumed with so much hate and unforgiveness.

What would you do with the possessions given to you after break up?

Would you return it, do away with it or would you rock it like K. tran?

Christina Milan Flaunts "hot" body in almost Nothing.

I came across some pictures of Christina Milan on a date with rapper boyfriend lil Wayne. Dressed in a brasserie and a tiny short 

While some might drool on the sexiness of the attire, all I see is a very inappropriate dressing for a date with a man who is fully clad. Christina has a banging body and nice physique but this whole ensemble is a fashion faux. Who dresses this way for a date? This would have been appropriate for a time out in the beach.

This is super trashy coming from the sweet girl we used to know.

THUMBS DOWN

Never Sell yourself Short

When you find yourself trapped between what moves you and what society tells you is right for you, always travel the route that makes you feel alive – unless you want everyone to be happy, except you.  

No matter where life takes you, big

cities or small towns, you will inevitably come across others who think they know what’s best for you – people who think they’re better than you – people who think happiness, success and beauty mean the same things to everyone.

They’ll try to measure your worth based on what you have, instead of who you are. But you know better than that – material things don’t matter. Don’t chase the money. Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive. Go

for the things of greater value – the things money can’t buy. What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart,

and a sense of self-worth. If you’re lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them. 

Never sell yourself short.

Know Your Worth Ladies

There is this lady friend of mine who is always on my neck about when I would get married. She would ask to know who I was with at the moment and how serious the relationship was.

She would advice me not to let him know certain aspect of my life not because it was too early to divulge such information but it has the tendency of driving prospective bobo away.

I have seen ladies shrinking their life achievements, hiding their offspring, reducing their age, living way below standard cause they do not want to offend or scare the man looking their way.

In as much as God has blessed you or you have made some mistakes in your past. You do not have to apologize for it. You dont apologize for having a nice job and good pay cause you worked for it. You don't have to suffer a 

man with loads of esteem problem to live.

A man who is really a man will know that your success is his success. A real man will know that your past do not really define you. He would lift his head high because he knows the worth of his woman above rubies.  He is not intimidated by her her achievements and goals..rather he would help her highest potential. 

You don't have to lie to make a man stay

You do not have to sell yourself cheap

You dont have to diminish or shrink your worth cause you want him to stay

If he is so much into a wifey material ..Seek for a 'husbandly' material too. 

Dont jump into the wagon because you have to.

Be true to yourself. A man who loves you, a man deserving will love you for you and you will love him for him.

Wear your extra accessories with pride..if he wont have you with them, he can jump into the lagoon.

Find Yourself.. FIRST!!!

Ladies.. You have to know who you are and what you want before getting into any relationship.

Find yourself before you find love or love finds you. It is not okay to go into a relationship with the hope that the other half will make you feel complete.

If your wholeness or completeness has to be defined by being with someone then you will keep jumping from Paul to Anthony. The earlier you realise that your happiness doesn't have to be defined by being with someone, the better for you. When you enter into a relationship without finding yourself, you become like a parasite to the other person cause your live will revolve round them and it gets so toxic.

Define yourself.. Who are you?

Apart from being someone's girlfriend/fiancée/wife...Who are you as an individual? What defines you as a person? 

It is okay to be a big Part of someone's identity, but if you strip that away, what is left? 

If nothing is left after stripping off someone's name from yours then you haven't defined whom you are.

Define yourself..

Don't go into a relationship to feel validated or prove a point..Don't let your life goal become someone who can take care of you and give you a mushy life. 

Be your own person, and let your significant other be his or her own person as well. Your relationship will be much healthier and stronger.

Don’t start a new relationship if you aren’t able to define yourself without someone else.

What you Permit is what you Get

What you permit in your relationship is what you get in the long run.

1. I was in a restaurant and I noticed a 'couple' seated at an obscure end. A glance at them would never raise your suspicion on what was going on between them, a second and third look if sensitive enough would shock you at the realization on what was transporting between them. The guys hand was working its way into the skirts of the lady and I could tell he was stroking her cause the look on her face was indescribable. To confirm my suspicions, when they rose to go, I saw a patch of seminal fluid on the guy pant.

2. A deaconess once told us a story about her visit to her fiancé family. On arrival, she decided to help his aged mom with her laundry and in the process, fiancé sister walked up to her and dumped her clothes for laundry too. Deaconess called her back and ordered her to take every of her clothes. Caused a strain in the relationship between SIL and the deaconess but she stood her ground and insisted she wouldn't take trash. Deaconess eventually got married to her man. SIL knows her boundaries and respects them well.

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The two scenarios above paints two different pictures.

I have nothing  against public display of affection but when it involves groping and grabbing and other forms of extremes, it speaks a lot about how the couples in question views respect.i have seen with men who publicly squeeze the breast and butts of their partners in public and all they do is laugh or grin sheepishly. If he doesn't respect your body in public, then he won't do so in private. A man who tells you he loves you but constantly disrespect your person is not in Love with you. Love and respect are Siamese twin and go head in head. Both are inseparable. Boundaries should be respected. What you allow in your 'lovey-dovey' days will transform into its reviewed version later on in the future.

Does he always scold you in the presence of his family and all you do is shrink and hide? 

Does he threatens to beat you up whenever you falter?

What are his views on women who strive to attain the peak of their career?

You cannot constantly overlook some important signs in the name of love. Love seeks to know, to understand better and make choices that would make her blossom.

On point two... I know some ladies will actually wash SIL clothes to paints the picture of a "wife material" and when she eventually gets into the family and SIL constantly disrespect her and treats her like trash, she would tell whoever cares to listen that SIL is Jezebel reincarnated. What you permit is exactly what you would get. Saying NO and standing your grounds sometimes would only earn you disdain but in the long run, your dignity and respect will be preserved.

You do not have to say YES to every request, every prodding. You do not have to agree to everything because you want to appear 'decent' in the eyes of people. It's very okay to have a different view, it is very good to disagree with opinions that do not sit well with you. Being in a relationship shouldn't turn into an automated machine that obeys the prompt of its handler.

Life in a Mug

LIFE IN A MUG

Sometimes last month as about 11pm, after rounding up my days work, I decided to make myself a hot cup of lemon tea before crashing. I boiled some water, poured into the mug and headed to my room to prepare the lemon tea. I had barely opened the door when the whole content of the mug emptied on my hands. I wanted to scream in pains, but I shocked myself by gently placed the mug on the floor and dashing to the kitchen to run my hands over the faucet.

I learnt a lot from this experience.

1. Life do not happen